Summary:
We have all learned that giving will not always buy you a ticket into heaven. People constantly ask for favors, as though you will submit to doing them a favor because of your assumed close relationship. The phrase often warns not to be too generous or lenient because treachery is at the other end.
The phrase 'Give him an inch, and he'll take an ell' has an intriguing historical origin. It first appeared 1546 in John Heywood's work, where an 'ell' referred to a measurement of cloth about 45 inches in length. By the 1800s, the phrase had evolved into its current form, carrying a warning about the potential for exploitation in relationships.
Article:
As critical thinkers, we can decide how much to give and when to cut back on giving to others, especially when we understand their habit of consuming other people's lives for self-interest. This understanding alerts us to potential manipulation and empowers us to set and maintain our boundaries, giving us a strong sense of control and confidence in our interactions. Failing to set these boundaries can lead to emotional exhaustion, loss of self-esteem, and even physical harm in extreme cases.
It's crucial to be aware of the following traits that indicate some people are more takers than givers. And they can do it with such skill. Recognizing these traits is not just important, it's essential to staying informed and prepared in your interactions.
Self-deprecating- The act of self-reprimanding or belittling oneself, undervaluing one's contributions, disparaging oneself, or being excessively modest. The person relies on others to make decisions, including responsibility for the consequences.
Narcissist- a self-centered, arrogant, socially inward, preoccupied with oneself, and one's own needs. This person is void of conscience and knows how to play others and the system to their benefit.
Prevaricator- A person who habitually lies and exaggerates truths for self-gain.
Incorrigible- a person incapable of being corrected or rehabilitated
Idiologues who are deeply committed to a specific ideology, including a religion and politics, which does not allow for flexibility or reason.
Super friendly and passive person who refuses to make a declarative statement, opinion, or decision, but has no problem projecting the responsibility onto others. They will often take advantage of small mistakes, miscalculations, and ineptness. Nice comes with a price.
Pathological- valueless, parasitic, and conscienceless
Sociopath- A person who has a pattern of behavior of disregarding the rights and considerations of others, and is void of a conscience. They may be very successful in politics, business, or even religion. They are considered to have antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).
Characteristics of a sociopath:
Many people are incorrigible, meaning they cannot be rehabilitated, corrected, changed, or reformed. They may spend their entire lives with this condition, believing that others cannot see through their faade. The underpinnings of their subconscious are that they are both insecure, lonely, and isolated because their created world is a fraud.
These people may believe they are the most intelligent in their community.
They dwell in their comfort zone and spend their days manipulating others for personal gain.
The sociopath will commonly use word salads to distract, deflect, confuse, or blame others for their actions. Of course, word salad means "a confused or unintelligible mixture of seemingly random words and phrases."
When trying to justify or defend their opinions, the lines of truth are blurred between facts, illusions, and revisionism. From a distance, their actions could be seen as prestidigitation, or sleight of hand, with words.
They rely on rationalization as a defense mechanism to justify seemingly logical explanations of their actions, thoughts, and feelings.
They blur the lines of logical vs. illogical, believing they can convince others of their position or opinions.
They gloat over their abilities, achievements, and possessions, which they take from others.
They have no desire to be seen by others as their equals. They perceive themselves as superior.
They frequently admire their collection of things as accomplishments.
No American institution is spared, including the government. Many are now in government to capitalize on themselves by tearing down our culture and institutions.
They rip apart concepts of capitalism, self-reliance, individual accountability, individualism, and rights of privacy, as well as shredding the Constitution.
What is left is a country pillaged for the benefit of a few, subject to historical revisionism, persecution, cancellation, and a culture of historical artifacts.
What was normal no longer exists.
A person may appear anti-social as defined by social norms. They are not interested in social discourse or emotional interactions with others. They view such interactions as degrading because of my superior intellect.
They routinely experience the pure excitement of body and mind, where their heart beats faster, blood flows quicker to their brain and muscles, and their outrageous body stimulus is constant.
They strive for the next adrenaline rush.
They are addicted to activities with compulsive participation of physical, mental, legal, and financial consequences.
They function appropriately in a fiercely competitive society, given the options.
When we confront these traits in a person, the best thing we can do is exit as quickly as possible. Remember, developing a relationship with them will not do any good. Over time, you will get stung like a bee. I have met them all. Trust your instincts and know that it's okay to walk away. There are many more normal people to deal with who understand relationships are a two-way street. Trusting your instincts is not just OK, it's crucial for your well-being and will guide you to make the right decisions.