Dan J. Harkey

Educator & Private Money Lending Consultant

The Soon-To-Be Ex-Husband Found Rejection And Isolation

When He Tried To “F” Over His Soon-To-Be Ex-Wife

by Dan J. Harkey

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Summary

Deceptive Relationships Rarely Change Over Time

Obtaining a loan without informing one's spouse can have profound personal and legal implications. In a real-life example, a husband intentionally deceived his wife, who was unaware of his plan to obtain a loan and encumber their owner-occupied family home. 

This breach of trust and fidelity, the cornerstone of any marriage, can lead to severe legal consequences, including the potential loss of the family home, a devastating outcome that no one would want to face. 

The couple jointly held the property title as tenants in common, which means they both had a legal right to the property. 

This raised serious legal questions about the husband's actions. These could lead to severe legal consequences, including the potential loss of the family home, a devastating outcome that no one would want to face, and the breakdown of trust in the marriage.

The fear of losing such a significant asset can be a powerful deterrent against making financial decisions without spousal consent. This case underscores the importance of transparency in marriage. 

By keeping his wife in the dark about his loan plans, the husband has found himself in a lonely and isolating situation, a personal consequence of his deceit. His isolation is a powerful reminder of the potential personal consequences of financial decisions in a marriage.

Offering a bouquet of roses insulted her rational thinking and accentuated her hostility toward him.

Real-Life Example:

The borrower's mortgage broker said:

The borrower's mortgage broker stated, My client wishes to secure a second trust deed on the family's single-family, owner-occupied home to establish an iron fabrication business specializing in custom homes.   He fabricates entries, gates, decorative railings, and handrails.  He also does custom orders.  He has owned his owner-occupied property for a long time and has plenty of equity. However, the wife was never mentioned in these discussions about a potential loan.

The borrower's mortgage broker requested that the borrower fill out the application documents, including the loan application, credit authorization, and disclosures.  Upon receiving the application back from the borrower, the borrower's mortgage broker noticed that the wife had not signed it. When questioning the borrower, it was apparent that the husband intentionally failed to disclose to his wife his intention to encumber the property of a scoundrel.  She was unaware of the pending loan and her husband's desire to use the property as collateral.

The competent lender responded:

This case underscores the importance of seeking legal advice and being fully informed about all financial decisions within a marriage. The wife's emotional outburst, a clear sign of the strain on their relationship, was warranted and serves as a poignant reminder of the personal implications of financial decisions in a marriage. It's crucial to seek professional advice to avoid such emotional turmoil and legal complications.

In this case, the procuring mortgage broker should have obtained a title profile and noticed that the husband and wife were the property owners. The broker did not adequately inquire about the borrower's intentions, a crucial step in ensuring the legality and transparency of the loan process. A procuring mortgage broker's role is to act in the client's best interest (a fiduciary obligation), ensuring that they understand the terms and conditions of the loan and that the parties are informed and involved.

In California, a spouse cannot sell, convey, or encumber property without the other spouse's consent. This legal requirement, known as the spousal consent law, is designed to protect the rights of both parties in a marriage. If such a transaction occurs without the non-consenting spouse's permission, they can petition the court to void it. This could lead to the lender losing its lien position on the property, meaning it would no longer have the right to foreclose in the event of default and become an unsecured creditor, a riskier position with a lower chance of full repayment.

Reference material:

https://schorr-law.com/community-real-property-spouse-or-domestic-partner-joint-ownership/

I have not addressed the subject of consumer purpose vs. business purpose lending and whether it was appropriate to encumber this couple's single-family owner-occupied property to start a metal fabrication business. 

Check out my article on my website:

https://danharkey.com/post/consumer-vs-business-purpose-lending