Dan J. Harkey

Master Educator | Business & Finance Consultant | Mentor

Personal Growth & Development

A practical guide to getting better results in your work, your time, and your life.

If you’ve collected enough advice to fill a bookshelf but still feel like your calendar owns you, you’re in the right place. My articles focus on the successful practices that move the needle: goal setting, time management, sales and relationship-building, negotiation, more intelligent time allocation, and reinventing yourself when the old version stops working. Less inspirational theater. More execution.

Most people don’t fail from lack of talent—they fail from drift. I write about how to build clarity, protect your time, strengthen relationships, negotiate better outcomes, and create a repeatable system for progress. Practical, direct, and occasionally funny—because growth is serious, but it doesn’t have to be grim.

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When Love Turns Condescending:

Why Spouses Discount Each Other—and How to Stop the Damage

Why Do Some People “Discount” Others—And Why They Do It in Front of an Audience

Insecurity can sometimes manifest as overconfidence, evident in actions such as making sarcastic jokes, offering patronizing comments, or providing unnecessarily critical feedback. In these instances, individuals may attempt to elevate their own confidence at the expense of others.

When Dignity and Respect Slip in Marriage

How Couples Drift into a Habit of Condescension and Belittlement—and How to Find Their Way Back

When Respect Slips in Marriage: Comments can be hurtful

How Couples Drift into a Habit of Condescension and Belittlement—and How to Find Their Way Back

“Put That in Your Pipe and Smoke It”: Meaning, Use, and Bite

“Put that in your pipe and smoke it” is a blunt way of saying: this is the truth—deal with it. It’s a verbal mic drop, often delivered when disagreement no longer matters.

“Big Bertha” Reimagined:

When Ministries and Nonprofits Must Act Decisively for Mission, Not Efficiency

Big Bertha: The Case for Decisive Change In Organizational Culture

Every industry eventually faces a moment when incremental improvement fails. That is when leaders reach for their own version of “Big Bertha.”

How to Maximize Throughput:

Speed at the Edges Fails and Flow at the Center Wins

MEMORANDUM: To Executive Leadership

“It’s All in the Game”: By Tommy Edwards

A Love Song with an Unlikely Origin

“Yikes”:

The Small Word That Says More Than a Thousand Apologies

Snipe Hunting:

The Joke That Became a Legend—and the Bird That Made History

Justice — What Legal Scholars Say When the Cameras Are Off

Law is a system. Justice is a standard. Confusing the two is how process replaces purpose.

Liberty — The Freedom That Needs No Permission:

Liberty is easy to praise, hard to tolerate, and impossible to manage without diminishing it.

What Civil Rights Leaders Meant: Part II of II

Civil rights leaders sought equal opportunity, equal protection, and equal dignity—not permanent supervision of human difference.

What Civil Rights Leaders Meant: Part I of II

Equality was never meant to be mechanical. It was meant to be moral.

H.L. Mencken Warned with Typical Precision:

“The most dangerous man to any government is the man who is able to think things out for himself.”

Satirists Explain Bureaucracy Better Than Policy Experts

Satire exists because some truths are too absurd to state plainly.

Satirists Tell the Unspoken Truth with Humor:

In the Utopian State of Pacifica (otherwise known as Kalifornia),

“Cat got your tongue?”:

The phrase is an idiomatic question used when someone is unusually silent or unable (or unwilling) to speak.